Over the years, I got a number of misunderstandings and dispute with my family and friends. Some got resolved and nothing unpleasant happens after it. Some was not settled, but we just forget about it. Some not being able to resolve ended or dilutes our relationship.
Sometimes I wonder if it's me that is the problem or the other person. Even if something bad happens most of the time I will be the first to apologise, becos I want the friendship. I don't want to lose a friend becos of some stupid arguement. But sometimes even that doesn't helps.
Then, I found that different friends of mine accept comments in different ways(I mean eh maybe I am too retarded to have known it now). Some likes to hear the truth but only the good points, Some likes to hear only the good points, some don't mind listening to the cons but enjoy more positive comments, Some simply don't like to know anything(we call this bochup).
But for me, I want to be open to both good and bad, pros and cons. So I don't mind hearing bad points too. The reason I post this is becos I just recalled a few months ago I met up with some good friends and we started talking about these. That is each others good and bad. I think I am quite lucky to have known them becos you seldom know friends who are open to these type of topic (not sex hor). I know all of us don't like to hear negative stuff about ourselves, but I will try to absorb watever my friends has to say and in the end, it's up to me myself to decide if I want to change my ways or just stay in the same way and no hard feelings after that. This type of friendship is really what I want, being truthful to each other instead of pretentious. But I know that some of my friends if I want to maintain the friendship, it's good not to provoke their ego.
As a guy myself, I want to try to be more giving and not to take things too hard so that I will be a happier person. This is what I am working on for the past 1 or 2 yrs, being more optimistic over my previous pessimistic. But sometimes I do get pissed off, especially people who breaks promises or agreement but if they could tell me at least a reason I think I will be okay with it. even if the reason is " I no mood today" haha this is the reason sometimes I gave to my friends. But really mah, sometimes really no mood mah you know mensus? I dun have lar! But I will try to keep my promise lar since I don't like people to break unless I forgot about it.
So for those who know me, please tell me next time if you are unhappy with me okay?
One more thing to add on, I know a lot of friends have been toking about this to me... that is to get my driver's license. haha sorry leh it's becos I really too lazy to get it. Haha especially jj and ss since a few yrs ago you 2 get ur licenses liao keep hinting me to get it. I think I really too lazy liao lar that's one of my bad points and likes to procrastinate. Eh will get it soon.....
Think I will add a aim or target list for ma self in this blog soon.....
